Children's REFLECTIONS

Not your typical colouring in sheet!  These are activities and prompts to support you in conversation with your child rather than something to hand to your child and run.  The idea is that you take what it relevant and leave what isn't because YOU are the expert on your child.  These are to help you as you explore together and can be completed however works best for you.

Top Tips For  Using These Resources & Talking To Your Child

Listening is a skill which is so underestimated in many circles of life.  If you're here you're probably someone who is keen to listen and have the kind of communication with your child which is real and where they feel really seen, heard and understood.

The reality of making this work can sometimes be difficult with outside pressures or your child's own challenges with communication whether that's language based or they just don't like to talk much.

I wrote this as a resource to help you make the best use of any resources you download below and also to give you confidence in other conversations you may have with your child, particularly on more personal topics.

My Tummy Hurts

How often is tummy ache or sickness a sign something is off for your child (or yourself)? Whether it's physical or emotional our tummies tell us a lot.

 

The question is what can you do when you're not sure what it's telling you and your child finds it difficult to express themselves and maybe doesn't really know either?

 

These cards are to help you explore with your child.  You can print this document, cut them out and then sort out the messages.  You can use a few or a whole selection (depending on the age of your child) even add your own.

GoODBYE WORRY HELLO CUNNING PLAN

When there's lots on your mind it can be hard to see the wood for the trees.  This was created to help teenagers unravel some of their worried thoughts.  It's in the style of a 5 minute reflection sheet (although may take longer than that)

 

This can be particularly useful during times such as exam seasons when all the different pressures and worries can be overwhelming.  It's some thought provoking questions which can be used in discussion or journalling to begin to sort out those muddles thoughts and to begin to think about what may be helpful.

tRUST, FRIENDSHIPS & RELATIONSHIPS

How do we help our children have positive relationships online and in the real world?  How do we teach them who they can trust and when to be careful?  

 

Friendships and relationships can feel like a minefield for parents and there are no easy answers, but good communication and awareness can make a huge difference.  This resource was designed to use with children & teens to help them think about who they can trust.  It encourages them to consider different levels of trust, what they find vulnerable to share and how they can evaluate how trustworthy someone could be vs how likeable.

 

It could be used to generate conversation between a parent and child or for a young person to use to journal and reflect.  There are different parts which can be selected and it can be adapted for tweens and younger children.

 

On My Mind

Sometimes things can be bubbling round your head and it can be difficult to know what you're thinking, let alone how to express them.  This is particularly true if you are a teen or tween. a child or an adult

 

This is a resource to help begin exploration of those thoughts and feelings a little more so that you have an idea of what it going on in your head and work out what you'd like to communicate to those around you.  It's also a resource parents can use as prompts to explore with their child.

On My Mind

When your child has something on their mind it can be difficult to sort out what is true and what is just a passing thought.  This activity is a simple, but effective way to introduce them to the benefits of journalling.

 

They can begin to:

1.  Notice different thoughts in their head and voice them.

2.  Consider how true those thoughts are and weigh them against facts and evidence.

3. Think about what they could be telling themselves instead.

Change

Change can bring with it lots of different feelings, especially when it's a change we haven't sought. 

 

As parents we can feel the urge to want to fix and repair.  Sometimes what our children need most is for us to give them space and support to voice their feelings and be there with them. 

 

This is a tool to help your child begin to notice and express how they are feeling about changes.  It can be used for journalling or in general conversation.